Over-Reactive vs Neglectful Mom

Its hard enough being a new mom, but if you haven't experienced it already, let me tell you what happens when you go to the doctor's: First, they treat you like you're just an over-reactive first-time mom and tell you that nothing is wrong with the baby. So, the next time, you blow off every urge or instinct you have to take the baby to the doctor when something doesn't seem right. And then guess what they say? "What took you so long to bring this baby in???" This is what happened to me this week. For the last week or so, Dakota has been irritable and cries tears for what seems like no reason. So, I took her into the doctor about a week ago, and he looked at me like I was crazy and told me she was fine and sent me on my way. But in the last couple days, she's screamed bloody murder every time I try to get her to breastfeed and is having real trouble sleeping. So, today I took her back to the doctor, but decided to see someone new... turns out, two ear infections! I felt so bad. And the doctor told me that it looked like its been building up in there for a while(insinuating I should have brought her in sooner), so I told him that I brought her in last week but nonetheless, I am now deemed the neglectful mom. Where's the line? Anyhow, Dakota is now on antibiotics and is honestly still a very good baby despite the fact that she must be miserable. Eating and sleeping is still a challenge but hopefully that'll get better in the next few days. She's a trooper!